Monday, March 31, 2008

Last week, I was in the Dominican Republic getting some well deserved R&R with my boyfriend Glenn. I had also recently watched Oprah’s webcast with Ekhart Tolle about his book “A new Earth: Awakening to your Life’s Purpose”. In this webcast, Ekhart (we’re on a first name basisJ), talked about not labeling things or people. He said that when we label things, we limit our ability to see beyond that label and doesn't allow us to see it with an open mind.

The label can take the form of an adjective like “stupid, slow, selfish...” Labels can also take the form of a race, a culture or simply the name for the object like “rose, car, man, woman, officer, army…”. When we label people and things, we can only see them within the constraints of what we believe belong to that object. Notice your own reactions to the word “clergyman” or “prostitute” or “baby”. Each word brings up for us the beliefs about that word like “all men are….” “all babies are….”. You get to fill in the blank, because each of us has a different belief about what men are like, babies are like and all objects in our world. These beliefs limit us from truly seeing who or what is in front of our eyes.

Next to my room in the Dominican, I saw some magnificent orchids. In as much as I remembered not to label the orchid as “an orchid”, I automatically did label it. Since I do not have a visual in my head of what an orchid should be, I could look at the flower with wonder and curiosity. It allowed me to be in the moment, truly marveling at what I was looking it. I was able to look at the orchid with a beginner’s mind. This lead to feeling peaceful yet alive at the same time. Something so simple, yet so connecting.

I am taking on doing more of the ‘not labeling’ and looking at something as though it was the first time I was seeing it and truly exploring it with my eyes, my mind and my being. What are you willing to explore with a beginner’s mind?

Friday, March 14, 2008

Creating Inner Peace

On a recent teleseminar, I spoke about Inner Peace. There are many aspects to creating and maintaing Inner Peace. However, if you are going to only focus on one characteristic, I would suggest that you look at resistance. Resistance is being in the mindset of:

- 'Something is wrong here' or
- 'something shouldn't be this way'.

This mindset undermines Inner Peace and creates stress, frustration, anger and disappointment. The problem with this mindset is that if we wait till all our circumstances line up so that we can have Inner Peace, we are at the mercy of our circumstances - which honestly never line up perfectly the way we imagine we want it to be.

So, if you are looking for 'Inner Peace in the face of your circumstances', you are going to want to become aware of all the places you resist. Here I have listed the four forms of resistance and an example of each:

1) Gossip
i) "Did you hear what she said?"
2) Complaints
i) "I cant' believe it's snowing again!"
3) Forcing an outcome
i) Using the cold shoulder to force someone to apologize to you
4) Wishing that something would change
i) Your spouse's clothes on the floor

Spend a few minutes each day and begin to list all the places you resist. Once you begin to notice these areas, then you can begin to change them.

Wednesday, March 5, 2008

Oprah's 'The New Earth Webcast Seminar

As many of you know by now, Oprah has launched the largest webacast seminar ever produced. She has created a seminar based on Ekhart Tolle's new book 'The New Earth - Awakening to Your Life's Purpose'. By the time I signed up for this seminar, there were already 360,000 people who had signed up .....and there was still a few days to go.

What struck me the most in the seminar is something Ekhart said. Many of us search for our life purpose and once we've discovered it feel that we need to follow through on what we believe we're supposed to do.

Ekhart suggests we ask ourselves: "What does my life purpose ask of me". This is a much bigger question and allows us to tap into the universal energy to find out what is it I can use my gifts for in this world.

To access this information, you need to be still. You need to find a space and a time where you can sit quietly, slow your breathing down and become very present. Allow your mind to quieten and turn off. Then simply allow any universal messages to present themselves to you. This may seem fairly simply, but actually takes something. It is about letting go of control and letting our minds and our ego take a break to allow the greater message show up. Go ahead.....enjoy!

Tuesday, March 4, 2008

I'll be on Slice TV today!

Back in the summer, I was invited to be a guest therapist on Slice TV. The program is 'Doctor in the House'. Here, I was interviewed about how to deal with a child who is terminally ill. It's playing at 11:30 am and 3:00 pm EST.

I can't wait to see what I look like on tv! I'm finally a star! Maybe I'll get my own star in Hollywood!

Saturday, March 1, 2008

Finding Inner Peace!

Many of my clients complain about not enjoying their life. They do what they are supposed to. They fulfill their obligations in their jobs, with their spouse, their parents, their children and their friends. Once they have completed that, they have no energy left to fulfill themselves.

What if one of your obligations while on this earth is to enjoy yourself? How would you be doing things differently?

Your mission, if you wish to accept it, is to find peace and joy every single day. This isn’t an everyday mission where you ‘do’ things, to get your closer to the goal. This mission is a special mission where you are going to ‘notice’ experiences to get closer to your goal. Begin by noticing:

**What you did today that made you laugh!
**What you did today that had you experience happiness and joy!
**The experiences that gave you pleasure!
**What you are grateful for!

You might even want to go to and sign up for her seminar on Ekhart Tolle's Book the New Earth and learn through his guidance how to let go of all that creates suffering in your life and find your Inner Peace!

Send me a comment about what you noticed and learned. Can’t wait to hear from you.